Human beings are not perfect. For some reason we get lost in the misguided mindset that perfection is the end goal. Making mistakes, having multiple failures, screwing up sometimes, it’s all part of growth. In trying to be some sort of perfect, we lose sight of our purpose. We try to please others, do everything at once, never disappoint, always say yes. This is a fast track path towards average. When we make our idea of “perfect” the goal, we set ourselves up for certain failure and disappointment. Perfect is an illusion.
To be the best version of yourself, act in alignment with your core values consistently. Bring your authentic self will bring more happiness than any superficial goal can. Say no to things that don’t align with your core beliefs, do less, only do what truly matters. Focusing on the important things and appreciating what you do have breeds a contagious sort of contentment.
Don’t try and prove yourself. Don’t feel the need to explain yourself to others. Take action and embody your philosophy in the life that you live. Being unapologetically yourself is the best way to avoid a meltdown. I’ve had my fair share of those, so it’s good to have this in writing as a reminder of how to put myself back together again.
For far too long I tied my happiness to a future goal. I’ll be happen when I reach my goal weight. I’ll be happy when I have abs. I’ll be happy when I’m “x” dress size. It’s pretty much the best way to damage your self worth and current happiness. Acknowledge that your are enough. Right now, in this moment. At the end of the day, if you are a good genuine person people will love you for who you are. Nothing less and nothing more. Be not only content, but thankful for what you have and where you’re at, while working at continual improvements to be the best version of you.
Guess what? No one cares what you say you’re gonna do. People are usually too preoccupied with their own lives. So live the life that you want, forget the opinions of others. If you want to be happy, care less what others think & do what aligns with your own core values. Be the person you were born to be. No excuses.
Stop being so damn hard on yourself. Believe me, it isn’t helping.
When you stop telling yourself that you’re not and will never be good enough, then everything gets a whole lot easier.
If you don’t enjoy the process, you’ll get to your goal weight, or reveal those illusive abs, and realise.. I’ve become a jerk and I hate my life.. so the result just isn’t that enjoyable.
If you focus on your daily behaviours and having small wins each day, you will create a positive feedback loop. This daily process allows you to enjoy the journey by continually achieving daily goal habits. Steal the focus from the end goal and the distance you have to go. Instead highlight daily wins. This win everyday approach feeds current happiness which will further drive you forward. Everyday, Brick by brick, you will build your body and a life you don’t want to escape from.
Stop wasting time hating on yourself and where you’re at. By focusing on what you want each day to look like, you can live like the person you aspire to be. Act as if you are already at your goal. What sort of daily behaviours and habits would a lean and healthy person engage in? Create the new you and live as this version of yourself would live.
Stop yourself as you reason your way out of daily activity. Don’t justify why you haven’t meal prepped or grocery shopped so you can avoid unsatisfying convenience foods. We can reason ourselves in or out of anything. Make sure when the “old you” tries to pull you back into unhealthy habits, you have a strong sense of what your healthy lean self would do. You don’t need to decide what to do because you already know.
Let’s stop making perfect the goal, and start living.
p.s. check out @goatsofanarchy on instagram bc I stole these super happy goat pics from there.